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| 08-10-12 11:18am - 4517 days | Original Post - #1 | |
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marcdc1 (0)
Active User  Posts: 139 Registered: Jan 10, '07 Location: New York |
Is sex better with love? Taking Pat362's suggestion I'm opening this thread to avoid the apparent spam from an earlier poster.  Perhaps the community has grown tired of this conversation already. I hope not. I'm happy to see at least one other romantic (messmer) has joined my position that sex is better between two who have their emotions, and bodies, committed.  | |
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| 08-11-12 10:53am - 4516 days | #2 | |
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pat362 (0)
Active User  Posts: 3,575 Registered: Jan 23, '07 Location: canada |
Since I'm the one who bitched about the other thread then here are some of my ideas. Sex between two people who love each other can be much better than sex without love because you can't really love someone without knowing and understanding them so there is an intimacy that won't be there with a random person. isn't it normal that when you love someone then you want to make that person as happy as you can because their happiness and joy makes you happy and vice versa they want to make you happy for the same reasons. This applies to the sex and you get more intense and more intimate sex than would probably be possible with a stranger. That's not to say that you can't have great sex with the random person you met at a bar but you are mostly going to fuck each other and if one of the partner is more into getting his or her own satisfaction than the other may be less than thrilled with the exchange. Afterall you don't know the person you just had sex with except that he or she turned you on physically. Attraction is a powerfull thing but it's like badly wanting something and then getting it and it's not as good as you thought it would be because you built up your expectation and that's always hard to meet. That's why I think that love can come from repeated sexual encounters with the same person because unless you only meet to fuck the person and then someone leaves than sooner or later there's going to be some after sex conversations and love can come from these. Long live the Brown Coats. | |
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| 08-11-12 10:56am - 4516 days | #3 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Hi marcdc1, this romantic thinks that the subject has pretty well run its course!  It is my personal feeling that the overwhelming majority of the members would give a resounding yes to your question. | |
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| 08-11-12 11:54am - 4516 days | #4 | |
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graymane (0)
Suspended  Posts: 1,411 Registered: Feb 20, '10 Location: Virginia |
Yeah ..... for awhile. But even as love grows, the practice of limiting oneself to sex with the same woman over time tends to comprimise one's desires .... hammering him with stubborn temptations of seeking a partnership with a satisfactory newness. Lotta guys don't want to admit that, but lets take a single example by asking ourselves why we're using the services of this website. I hasten to add that the latter is commendabley laudable in the highest order, in that the receptical is one's own hand .... and not that of another woman's vagina. It follows that a respectable percentage of men still indeed do staunchly and faithfully commit themselve to the same woman. Whether that's born out of a chemical adjustment in certain male's brain, divine intervention or whatever .... the good news for them is that sex just gets better as the commitment tightens. Hogwash? ......maybe. but life's college of hard-knocks honoring this subject has long ago graduated me with high honor.  | |
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| 08-11-12 01:28pm - 4516 days | #5 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
^Hi graymane, for me it has to be an unequivocal yes, no matter how long I have been married because sex without love is unthinkable to me. Of course there wouldn't be the same sort of fire there is when you first start out, I grant you that, but nature hasn't given me a choice in the matter. I am monogamous for life. | |
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| 08-11-12 02:28pm - 4516 days | #6 | |
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graymane (0)
Suspended Posts: 1,411 Registered: Feb 20, '10 Location: Virginia |
I hear you, 'Monsieur messmer. And it is you of whom I was thinking when I keyed in "It follows that a respectable percentage of men still indeed do staunchly and faithfully commit themselve to the same woman" Your's suggests to me as being an honorable union; one in which the institution of marriage would heal it's wounds if it followed your example. I marvel that there is one among us who is so devoted, and gives of himself so freely to make his mate as comfortable, happy, and put in position to welcome life with the enthusiasm one is expected and deserves as thee. | |
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| 08-11-12 03:19pm - 4516 days | #7 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Thanks for the compliment, graymane, but I can't take credit for the way I was built. It doesn't take any effort on my part .. I managed to luck into meeting the love of my life 52 years ago, and that's all there is to it. Maybe part of the credit can go to the fact that she's always allowed me to ogle other women (in life and on line) without getting jealous .. who knows, if that's not responsible for keeping me on the straight and narrow?  | |
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| 08-11-12 03:32pm - 4516 days | #8 | |
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Drooler (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 1,831 Registered: Mar 11, '07 Location: USA |
Everything's better with love, except maybe violence and hate. I wanted something new, so I left England for New England. | |
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| 08-11-12 03:59pm - 4516 days | #9 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Drooler, what would we do without you? Your posts are hilarious! | |
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| 08-11-12 05:44pm - 4516 days | #10 | |
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Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 2,158 Registered: Jan 01, '08 Location: Wash |
I don't think sex is better per-say, but I would say passion is most definetly better with love. It like one can like chocolate and eat it, or have an orgasmic experiences if they love it. Since 2007 | |
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| 08-12-12 12:13am - 4515 days | #11 | |
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Ergo Proxy (0)
Active User  Posts: 52 Registered: Dec 22, '07 Location: Germany |
Perhaps one shouldn't make this very strong distinction "with love", "without love" because there are many nuances in between. Personally I've not fallen in love yet, but the sex with women you know for some time (and actually like) is of course better. After all humans don't just go through the motions like an animal ("oh, well it's that time of the year again, I've to fuck somebody, no matter who"). All hail to the hypnotoad! | |
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| 08-12-12 10:15am - 4515 days | #12 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
I agree with your sentiments, EP, but not with your last sentence because, in my experience, many males are driven by their libido to seek out sex, with like/love playing no part whatsoever, otherwise we wouldn't have such a thing as the sex trade. | |
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| 08-12-12 01:44pm - 4515 days | #13 | |
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Ergo Proxy (0)
Active User Posts: 52 Registered: Dec 22, '07 Location: Germany |
Well, you are right. That's one point in favor of the animal kingdom; they never have to pay for sex. But, after all, we are just more evolved monkeys, so it's just circular reasoning...maybe I am tired it's getting late here. All hail to the hypnotoad! | |
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