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skippy (0)
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Technology changes. The definition of cheating doesn't. Is watching a porn movie cheating? What about going to a strip club? ...what about the club's private booth? My wife and I have talked about this and if I'm not sticking my dick in another woman, it isn't cheating. In my mind, cheating is not about the interaction, it's about another relationship. Although there is sometimes interaction in these activities (like web-cam porn), there is no real relationship (These people are all taking your money, after all...) and there is no real physical sex. A separate relationship where there is physical sex is cheating. Others may have a different take on this. I've known women who think that looking at another woman is cheating. Known. Past tense.
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09-07-17 08:30pm
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pat362 (0)
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REPLY TO #1 - skippy :
I agree that watching porn isn't cheating per say because ultimately there is no relationship between the viewer and the performers but it's a very different thing if you are interacting with a cam model or in a private booth with a stripper because there is now an actual back and forth discussion between you and those women. I'm willing to bet that you return to those same cam models and strippers on a pretty regular basis which to me means that your relationship is even deeper than you may realise.
You don't necessarily have to have sex with another woman for it to be cheating because if you interact on a personal basis with a woman that isn't your wife, girlfriend or analyst than you are going down a very slippery road that could lead to an accident.
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09-08-17 07:52am
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Drooler (Disabled)
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Only if you fall head over heels in love with her
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09-08-17 08:20pm
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skippy (0)
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REPLY TO #2 - pat362 :
Hi Pat,
Um. I'm going to disagree with you on this. I regularly talk to and often admire girls at work, at the gym, at the pool or beach, wherever. This is a perfectly acceptable adult thing to do and it is not cheating. The girls we are talking about, on cams or in clubs, for example, are WORKING. They are getting paid to be nice to men and the men are paying them back for it. The conversation is solely to ensure that the girl gets paid and that the guy is satisfied in one way or another. There is NO chance of ever actually developing a real relationship with them.
My wife used to suggest that I visit a strip club whenever I traveled to a city that had good ones because she knew she would get seriously laid when I got home. It was the old "doesn't matter where you get your appetite, just come home hungry" analogy. It's a little different these days with cams, but we have watched a few cam sessions together because they are generally better than watching a video and the interaction can be pretty cool. Today, we have talking, interactive, virtual booths and even 3D cams. Is it cheating? Not just no but hell no. Going back to the same cam girls? That's not a relationship, that's because the girl is hot as hell or does something in her act that you like.
I look at it strictly as a method of release or relaxation and have never taken any conversation with a dancer or cam girl as anything more than small talk. This is NOT objectification, because I have great respect for these girls and what they do for a living. But I have no real desire to develop a relationship with them because a) it would mess up the fantasy and b) we would have absolutely nothing in common. Oh, c) and I'm happily married.
So for me, none of this is cheating.
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10-05-17 01:45pm
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pat362 (0)
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REPLY TO #4 - skippy :
I can't speak for your specific case but regularly interacting with a specific cam model or a stripper is going down a slippery road that can and may lead to infidelity if not physical than certainly mental.
I have worked with women my entire life and for the vast majority of that time I have being both friendly and on some occasions a little flirtatious but these woman were my coworkers and not a means to sexual gratification. I don't think you can say the same about cam models and in many ways about strippers because the relationship is one where you are sexually stimulated by the interaction and will in all likelihood lead to you masturbating to these women. I don't think you do that with the women at your gym, at the pool or at work.
That said this is your life so whatever opinion I offered should be taken with a box of salt because I don't know you and therefore I can only offer my point of view.
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10-08-17 11:15am
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