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exotics4me (0)
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I believe in the ability to fantasize swinging WITH your spouse or significant other but don't think the actual action of it helps. The fantasy of it can often bring out emotions that we struggle with and if done together, it can build a new level of trust but shouldn't be done if either person is insecure.
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07-22-18 08:50pm
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Kody (0)
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REPLY TO #1 - exotics4me :
That's a very interesting point of view. I've always fantasized about it with my girlfriends but never done it. Now that I read this, maybe that's because the fantasizing was enough.
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07-25-18 01:43pm
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exotics4me (0)
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REPLY TO #2 - Kody :
I'll credit my first serious relationship with a non-American woman for helping me discover it. She came from a country that repressed women. I couldn't understand how she could be insecure (what I thought), so I started showing her some porn and it was like she became a whole different woman. Turns out it was her seeing that I wasn't going to get mad or condemn her for looking at porn that helped. The problem that eventually showed its face was she didn't know when/what was too much. She would see a exhibitionism/flashing type porn scene and want to go out into public with a skirt and no panties. It made for a very exciting sex life but we were young (early to mid-20s for me, she was 19-21) and when I wouldn't want to do risky things she would take it as me not being interested in her. In the PU forum thread, "Top 5 or 10 favorite scenes", I listed a handful of scenes that are in my favorites just because women love them. I think from the male perspective you have to be prepared for something a lot of men say isn't true. Women like women, they find women sexier than men, which is understandable to me but it can be hard for a man who realizes if she is that much into women he really can't compete. So, those scenes I shared, they focus on the woman in the scene being in control with men or a man. Those scenes have never failed me. Including one woman who told me she despised porn. Those type of statements are often what a woman thinks a man wants to hear. The confusion that can come in there is some women are like that towards their boyfriend/husband watching porn because it bothers them that he's getting off over other women so they believe he will be bothered by her getting off over other men and women in porn.
I've found it opens up communication and that helps with trust.
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07-25-18 03:24pm
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Kody (0)
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REPLY TO #3 - exotics4me :
Wow, thanks a lot for the extensive reply / advice! Didn't expect this. I'll definitely check out that forum thread you mentioned. Very curious to see what sort of scenes are in there.
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07-29-18 08:44am
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Homegirl (Disabled)
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Bad idea it can only lead to trouble.
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03-30-20 12:37pm
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