Welcome GUEST!      CREATE ACCOUNT - Forgot Password?

Create an account to share your experiences and more!

E-MAIL   PASS  

Auto Log-in Future Sessions (on this computer).
  
Forum Thread A note about the site and any replies from other users.
Porn Users Forum » busted by SO...gift card for secrecy?
1-20 of 20 Posts Page 1
 
Thread Nav :  Refresh Page  |   First Post  |   Last Post  |   Porn Forum Home

04-30-09  11:49am - 5715 days Original Post - #1
littlejoe (0)
Active User

Posts: 49
Registered: Jan 25, '07
Location: earth
busted by SO...gift card for secrecy?

so my SO doesnt approve of the occasional adult website, so ive been good. long enough! at the gas station today i saw prepaid visa debt cards. can these be used at adult websites? id still have to put my name and address in the form, but at least thered be no credit card statement

04-30-09  11:57am - 5715 days #2
Wittyguy (0)
Active User



Posts: 1,138
Registered: Feb 04, '08
Location: Left Coast, USA
x Edited on Apr 20, 2023, 01:10pm

04-30-09  12:03pm - 5715 days #3
littlejoe (0)
Active User

Posts: 49
Registered: Jan 25, '07
Location: earth
Originally Posted by Wittyguy:


I've never tried, but you could probably give out a fictious name/address if using a gift card without a problem although this is just a guess.


ive thought of that, but ive never had any kind of mail sent to my home so im not too concerned

also, i believe u have to register them online b4 u can use them. can u confirm this?

04-30-09  12:13pm - 5715 days #4
Drooler (0)
Disabled User



Posts: 1,831
Registered: Mar 11, '07
Location: USA
Somehow I'm reminded of a joke about 2 guys that saw one of the gas stations just outside of town was having a contest. The sign said: "Fill up to enter our contest & win free sex!"

They filled up their tank and went inside to pay.

"How do we enter?" asked the first man.

"Well, I'm thinking of a number between one and 10," said the attendant. "If you guess right, you win free sex."

"OK, I guess seven, " said the first man.

"Sorry, I was thinking of eight," replied the attendant. "Come back soon and try again."

The next week, the two men returned to the same station to get gas. When they went inside to pay, the second man asked the attendant if the contest was still going on.

"Sure," replied the attendant. "I'm thinking of a number between one and 10. If you guess right, you win free sex."

"Two" said the second man

"Sorry, I was thinking of three," replied the attendant. "Come back soon and try again."

As they walked back to the car, the first man said to the second man "I'm beginning to think this contest is rigged."

"No, I don't think it is," said the second man.

"What makes you so sure?"

"Well, my wife won three times last week." I wanted something new, so I left England for New England.

04-30-09  12:45pm - 5715 days #5
GCode (0)
Active User



Posts: 386
Registered: Feb 23, '09
Location: USA
I can tell you that epoch and ccbill does accept prepaid VISA DEBIT cards. I have paid for 3 adult sites using these prepaid from rebates I got from other purchases. These were all purchases within the past month or two, with even one recently as 4 days ago. If it is a card that is prepaid, but shown as a credit card, you should have no problems with these two types with these two billing companies. As far as your question about the address stuff, there are sites that you usually need to activate the card at which has an area where you fill out your information such as address, name, and so on. I've only gotten visa debit cards from rebates and so on, so they were pre-registered with my information and I'm not sure if you fill out this info when you buy the credit/debit card when you purchase it. As far as the online sites for these cards, they also let you view your balance, activity, and so on. I'll be glad to answer any type of other questions about them as well if you have them. Sexted From My iPad Edited on Apr 30, 2009, 12:49pm

04-30-09  01:05pm - 5715 days #6
littlejoe (0)
Active User

Posts: 49
Registered: Jan 25, '07
Location: earth
thx all, ill try it this weekend. the worst that could happen is itd not work and id just use it to buy groceries

if it works with ccbill ill be really happy!

04-30-09  04:08pm - 5715 days #7
messmer (0)
Disabled User



Posts: 2,582
Registered: Sep 12, '07
Location: Canada
Originally Posted by Wittyguy:


There was some talk about this in a previous thread a while back. I have used a gift card to pay for adult sites before without a problem. Yeah, you still have to complete the sign up info which includes a name and address but that doesn't matter in terms of creating a paper trail. I've never tried, but you could probably give out a fictious name/address if using a gift card without a problem although this is just a guess.

Let me expand on the topic here. If your S.O. doesn't approve of the occasional adult website is it cool to still sneak around on these sites. On one hand, it seems to me (biased of course) that looking at adult content is fine; following the adage that it doesn't matter where you get your appettite so long as you eat at home. On the other hand, if s/he has a real hang up over adult material, are you just slowly shooting yourself in the foot on this one. In other words, how long until you get busted again and then your viewing issues become the source of a real relationship strain?

I guess my take is that if you enjoy looking at this stuff and you're in a serious relationship, at some point you're going to have to fess up or else be spending a lot of time sneaking around. My view is that you have to sneak around on this then that can lead to more avoidance of other relationship issues down the road. If it's the occasional web site visit we're talking about, that's no big deal. But, if your serious about your porn collection or viewing then that creates the dilemna.


Words of wisdom, Wittyguy! My wife knows that I am an incurable ogler but I am never tempted to go farther than that. I told her a loooooooong time ago: "Honey, you can't stop a man from looking." And she's all right with that. Resigned to that? :-) Even though she has no taste for porn, she understands the human male and makes allowances for it.

I, in turn, steer away from borderline "unfaithfulness" like personal emails to favorite models or having erotic chats via cam. That would make for a good subject, wouldn't it? When exactly are you crossing that fine line?

05-01-09  12:18am - 5714 days #8
turboshaft (0)
Active User

Posts: 1,958
Registered: Apr 01, '08
If your significant other has a problem with your love of porn, then I don't think a prepaid Visa could solve the problem. You could still wind up being "caught" (sorry for the quotes, but I can think of at least a couple of things worse than looking at porn) and there would just be more disapproval, or maybe even something worse.

If she can't move on when it comes to what is a pretty innocent habit, then maybe it is time for you to move on instead. Wittyguy even called it "sneaking around" earlier, as if you are committing some sort of a crime or actually cheating on her.

If you are still intent on fulfilling your wishes with prepaid plastic, I think the Visa gift cards just use your address but don't actually send a statement or receipt; you just check the balance online or over the phone (discreetly, of course) and keep the card hidden. "It's incredibly obvious, isn't it? A foreign substance is introduced into our precious bodily fluids without the knowledge of the individual. Certainly without any choice. That's the way your hardcore Commie works." - Gen. Jack D. Rippper, Dr. Stranglove

05-01-09  12:19pm - 5714 days #9
Wittyguy (0)
Active User



Posts: 1,138
Registered: Feb 04, '08
Location: Left Coast, USA
x Edited on Apr 20, 2023, 01:10pm

05-01-09  03:39pm - 5714 days #10
Goldfish (0)
Active User



Posts: 265
Registered: Jan 19, '08
Location: Boston, MA
Originally Posted by Wittyguy:


Here's a question that I have never fully figured out. It seems that women (can't say I've ever heard a normal guy take this position) are almost always the ones who frown upon the porn thing as though it is akin to cheating. Apparently, it's OK to fantasize without the visuals but how does taking it one step further become such a dastardly vice?

There's been much discussion in the forum about addiction and I'm not talking about some guy who spends all his time watching porn. That'd be a relationship killer there and it's a sign of other problems. I'm also not referring to the Bible thumping moralism that some use to demonize porn. However, if someone sometimes joins a porn site or watches porn dvds once in a while and their S.O. isn't a Jesus Jumper why is that such a big deal?

Superficially, I suppose women could take the position of feeling inadequate to the porn stars but, hey, the guy is still chosing to be with you and he's not shagging porn stars. Is it really just the crushing of romantic notions that "she's the only one for him" when in reality everyone fantasizes, just not so visibly as with porn. I can understand not being interested in porn and I can understand someone being addicted to porn. I guess I don't understand the "No Porn" stance when there aren't any underlying moral reasons to do so.


Assuming there is no moral component I'd tend to agree. I'm sure most men don't like shopping but it doesn't bother them when their wives/girlfriend go shopping to the point of considering it a "dastardly vice". (With some exceptions!)

I don't consider the inadequacy vice legitimate. If the SO doesn't enjoy the porn you can always keep it to the PC monitor in the bedroom and not keep DVDs laying around when not in use. If it STILL bother's her I'd say it's more her problem than the guy's problem.

Women usually win out in the argument to rid porn from the house because even if the inadequacy argument doesn't fly they can throw the sex addiction and moral arguments at you.

05-01-09  03:48pm - 5714 days #11
littlejoe (0)
Active User

Posts: 49
Registered: Jan 25, '07
Location: earth
the problem is with the money aspect, not of any "morals"

05-01-09  06:42pm - 5713 days #12
messmer (0)
Disabled User



Posts: 2,582
Registered: Sep 12, '07
Location: Canada
Originally Posted by littlejoe:


the problem is with the money aspect, not of any "morals"


Sorry, littlejoe, sometimes we get carried away and stray afar from the original question. :-) I am using a prepaid Mastercard that I fill with a certain amount of money from my checking account on a monthly basis and pay all my porn bills with that one. No statement ever comes to the house and your SO would only get suspicious if she looked over the monthly statement you get from your Bank very carefully and saw that there was a payment from your account to a pre-paid card. As to pre-paid debt cards purchased at a store, I am afraid I don't know the procedure with those.

05-11-09  02:11am - 5704 days #13
lk2fireone (0)
Active User



Posts: 3,618
Registered: Nov 14, '08
Location: CA
Originally Posted by Goldfish:


Women usually win out in the argument to rid porn from the house because even if the inadequacy argument doesn't fly they can throw the sex addiction and moral arguments at you.


I remember reading about a few divorce cases where male actors were accused of viewing porn on their computers. The inference is that they are morally degenerate, and possibly unfit to have custody of any children in the marriage.

You expect lawyers to use any arguments available in a divorce, especially in high-profile, big-money cases where actors are involved. But I would assume that the same arguments could be used in any divorce case.

So being open about any porn that might be on your computer with your SO could come back to bite you in the ass if there's a breakup down the road. That would be a weapon that could be used against you. Edited by Staff on May 11, 2009, 04:43am (Khan: fixed quote)

05-28-09  07:31am - 5687 days #14
littlejoe (0)
Active User

Posts: 49
Registered: Jan 25, '07
Location: earth
nvm... Edited on May 28, 2009, 10:08am

05-29-09  04:50am - 5686 days #15
asmith12 (0)
Active User

Posts: 79
Registered: Oct 17, '07
Originally Posted by lk2fireone:


That would be a weapon that could be used against you.

Ironically, anti-porn websites provide some defense against such accusations. Anti-porn site here: http://www.provenmen.org/ says on it's very home page: "Nearly one-half of all men struggle with pornography and lust. Many spend hours a day chasing after these things. " . But well, if it's "nearly one-half of all men", doesn't it mean that it's normal for men (another argument would be that 50% of all the men are deviants, but I hope it won't fly)?

On the other hand, in a divorce case, there is no such thing as somebody being right, in divorce case there are just 3 things: bad lawyers, good lawyers and prenuptial agreements. (BTW, when somebody "high-profile" doesn't write prenuptial agreement, later he gets exactly what he asked for).

Bottom line: I still prefer my SO to know about my habits; it's still better than trying to hide it (won't work in the long run anyway); and BTW argument that she knew about it from the very beginning AND didn't object, can probably be used in divorce case too (obviously depends on your lawyer being a good one :-)). Motto: "All niches except for boring one!"

05-29-09  01:38pm - 5686 days #16
turboshaft (0)
Active User

Posts: 1,958
Registered: Apr 01, '08
Originally Posted by asmith12:


Ironically, anti-porn websites provide some defense against such accusations. Anti-porn site here: http://www.provenmen.org/ says on it's very home page: "Nearly one-half of all men struggle with pornography and lust. Many spend hours a day chasing after these things. " . But well, if it's "nearly one-half of all men", doesn't it mean that it's normal for men (another argument would be that 50% of all the men are deviants, but I hope it won't fly)?


Ahh, the religious war on porn -- we, and our morals, are right, you are wrong, but join us and you will be "cured!"

Couldn't the "Many spend hours a day chasing after these things" argument be applied to religion as well? It could also be argued that religious fanaticism is, and always has been, causing a lot more suffering in the world than the "struggle with pornography." And if it's 50% of all men who are in need of this so-called cure, then we have quite a problem on our hands, don't we?

50% of men might be deviants, but I like to think that 100% of human beings are, it's just that most of us will not admit it. "It's incredibly obvious, isn't it? A foreign substance is introduced into our precious bodily fluids without the knowledge of the individual. Certainly without any choice. That's the way your hardcore Commie works." - Gen. Jack D. Rippper, Dr. Stranglove

05-30-09  01:54am - 5685 days #17
asmith12 (0)
Active User

Posts: 79
Registered: Oct 17, '07
Originally Posted by turboshaft:


Couldn't the "Many spend hours a day chasing after these things" argument be applied to religion as well?

Right, but I prefer to look at it from a bit different angle. What about establishing (or to be exact, reviving millenia-old, see for example cult of Dionysus, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dionysus) cult of genitalia? With it officially recognized as a religion, people would have much less trouble viewing porn. Unfortunately, these days trying to pray to those gods openly requires about as much courage as it was required to pray Christ in Roman Empire; ironic, isn't it? Motto: "All niches except for boring one!"

06-02-09  12:40am - 5682 days #18
PinkPanther (0)
Active User



Posts: 1,136
Registered: Jan 08, '07
Location: Oakland, CA
Originally Posted by asmith12:


Right, but I prefer to look at it from a bit different angle. What about establishing (or to be exact, reviving millenia-old, see for example cult of Dionysus, see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dionysus) cult of genitalia? With it officially recognized as a religion, people would have much less trouble viewing porn. Unfortunately, these days trying to pray to those gods openly requires about as much courage as it was required to pray Christ in Roman Empire; ironic, isn't it?


In the Bay Area, people are pretty out there about their sexuality if they are so inclined, but that's certainly unique. The Bay Area's pretty much made for weirdos, which is why I like it as much as I do.

06-02-09  07:44am - 5682 days #19
Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User



Posts: 2,158
Registered: Jan 01, '08
Location: Wash
Originally Posted by PinkPanther:


In the Bay Area, people are pretty out there about their sexuality if they are so inclined, but that's certainly unique. The Bay Area's pretty much made for weirdos, which is why I like it as much as I do.


The Bay Area wasnt wierd enough for me, so I moved :-P Since 2007

06-07-09  10:19pm - 5676 days #20
Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User



Posts: 2,158
Registered: Jan 01, '08
Location: Wash
PS been using a card for a month not bad. Since 2007

1-20 of 20 Posts Page 1
 
Thread Nav :  Refresh Page  |   First Post  |   Last Post  |   Porn Forum Home


Home - Sites - Users - Reviews - Comments - Categories - Forum

Contact Us - Announcements - FAQ's - Terms & Rules - Cookies - DMCA - 2257 - Porn Review - Webmasters

Protecting Minors
We are strong supporters of RTA and ICRA, two of the most recognized self labeling organizations. Our site is properly labeled to assist in the protection of minors accessing inappopriate content. For information about filtering tools, check this site.

DISCLAIMER: ALL MODELS APPEARING ON THIS WEBSITE ARE 18 YEARS OR OLDER.

To report child pornography, go directly to ASACP!  We're proud to be a corporate sponsor.
Have concerns or questions about porn addiction?  We recommend this helpful resource.

All Rights Reserved © 2003-2024 PornUsers.com.


Loaded in 0.01 seconds.