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pat362 (0)
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I'm assuming that the question implies that she or he is not into porn so I would not throw it away but I would definetely put it away. There is no way that the realtionship will ever go forward if the person you are dating as an issue with porn watching. The other solution is to drop her or him.
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03-08-10 05:39am
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Cybertoad (Disabled)
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Here we are with a question, of trust , fantasy and reality.
I think it depends because, if I was dating a girl for a month and she said toss it, I'd say BS. I think things like this depend on long term and where you and her / him would be going. If you are in for a bed buddy and they are threatened by , I'd say to bad.
But if the L word is there i'd think twice about hurting them by hiding it, as trust would go poof.
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03-08-10 08:07am
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Denner (0)
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Cybertoad got a point - voted NO - as I'm in a long time, fine marriage with no porn-problems.
But once had a girlfriend who by accident discovered my nude-magazines (back in the 80th) - and got somewhere between mad and sad - 'Don't you have enough in me?'
Guess that could still be the problem for younger PUs.
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03-08-10 08:30am
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surferman (0)
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Personally, if the relationship is one worth keeping, then giving up porn would probably be a worthwhile sacrifice. Temptation would be to keep some hidden away, but that could ruin everything in the future. So yes, with great reluctance, I would stop watching porn and get rid of my collection. Hope it never happens though..........
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03-08-10 09:10am
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james4096 (Suspended)
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Is the relationship that good that I'd be fine without porn, then maybe. If I had to, I'd destroy whatever she found and lie when I told her "no more." But not without a fight. My girlfriend will stop me from looking at porn when she pries it from my cold dead hands!
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03-08-10 09:54am
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lk2fireone (0)
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REPLY TO #5 - james4096 :
"My girlfriend will stop me from looking at porn when she pries it from my cold dead hands!"
That might be sooner than you think, if she ever finds out the extent of your porn stash. Lol.
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03-08-10 10:57am
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exotics4me (0)
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No, I see this as an insecurity/control issue. I would think you are having sex with them so they aren't a saint when it comes to sex. Most women I dated, before getting married, liked porn as long as I could convince them I wasn't going to run and tell everyone they liked porn or think of them any differently.
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03-08-10 04:35pm
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Capn (0)
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Not in reality an issue, but 'No' for me.
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03-09-10 09:43am
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messmer (Disabled)
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I told my wife ages ago "men WILL look" and she was smart enough to see the truth in that. If she had pressured me to give it up I think I would have felt too much as if I were in a marital prison and would have refused. I love her dearly but am stubborn enough not to accept outside control lightly. :-)
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03-09-10 10:17am
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turboshaft (0)
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I would say "Never! I've been with this porn a lot longer than I've been with you and it's never yelled at me or judged me!" but on the other hand I am constantly reminding myself to never say "never" as I really can't predict the future. Having said that (and not having a girlfriend at the moment) I would expect it to be a very good and fulfilling--not to mention distracting--relationship for me to go and say "I guess I don't need this porn after all."
I've said it before but if you have to choose between a partner and your collection you probably didn't do a great job choosing your partner and you really shouldn't have to give up a harmless innocent habit just to please someone else.
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03-09-10 01:01pm
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turboshaft (0)
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REPLY TO #9 - messmer :
Lol. Yes, and women WILL judge and get testy! It sucks because women don't see it as just looking but as serious boredom/disinterest/wandering in a relationship. I think you're lucky if she's quietly accepting or at least neutral on the subject--she doesn't gloat about it during the holidays but she doesn't seek out a marriage counselor either.
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03-09-10 01:08pm
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messmer (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #11 - turboshaft :
I am very lucky. She's the greatest and the love of my life! I think she is quietly accepting it because she is wise enough to recognize that the urge to look is firmly anchored in a male's genes and that it doesn't mean that it comes from a desire to be unfaithful in real life. I know that my habit/hobby has never taken anything away from our close and loving relationship.
In any case I am firmly convinced that 99.9% of all fully hormone equipped males will sneak a peek at porn if given the chance so what's a wife gonna do? Be gracious about it, and mutter under her breath, boys will be boys! :-) By the same token I wouldn't be upset if she wanted to see the Chippendales, if they still exist .. but she doesn't so that's a moot point. :-)
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03-09-10 02:05pm
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RagingBuddhist (Disabled)
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It's definitely an insecurity issue - ain't givin' it up!
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03-09-10 03:59pm
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Duante Amorculo (0)
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she gonna bounce before i give up porn. as said by many, nothing more than an insecurity/control issue and I DON'T TAKE KINDLY to anyone, especially women, thinking they can control me.
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04-11-10 04:59pm
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Duante Amorculo (0)
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furthermore i believe porn helps keep me from straying. it's better i wack off when i'm feeling raw/green (horny) than to go find some brothel or w/e. sometimes women really undervalue how much sex means to a lot of men and think that the fact that we're in "love" should be enough to keep us happy.
the ONLY way i would give it up is if she can break me off some cunt seven nights a week. otherwise shut it and let me be.
excuse me for sounding so ignorant/chauvinistic
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04-11-10 05:02pm
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Homegirl (Disabled)
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I could not give up my porn for my significant other.
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05-23-20 03:20pm
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