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| 08-20-12 10:56am - 4469 days | Original Post - #1 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
An Unwanted Mile Stone! As of today, for the first time since 2007, I am not subscribed to a single porn site and it feels weird not to be going somewhere to check the latest updates. How did this sad state of affairs come about? I am too fussy, that's how! That's my whole problem. I no longer collect any videos that are less than 720p .. so goodbye Videobox and others like it because with only one HD video update a day (which is usually not to my taste) they no longer satisfy my rather narrow requirements. I no longer collect most picture sets because the formula has been reduced to cute little girls taking off cute little girlish outfits within seconds, to leave you with a sequence of repetitious nude studies. The sites containing mature women feature them in top, jean skirt or jeans, with most going without bra or panties, reducing THAT set to a sequence of repetitious nude studies as well. The way it's been going is like this: I sign up with a site, find an abundance of stuff that appeals to me during the first two days because I haven't been there for a year or so, gush over it, then get caught up and look at mostly boring updates for the next three and a half weeks. Right now I am desperately browsing for a mature site (again) that features women who dress, to start out with, like ordinary women. In other words, they not only wear outerwear but also underwear and all that in HD or crystal clear high resolution sets. I found one site among thousands that came close but I just finished with a subscription to them and will have to wait a while before I resubscribe. I am sure that there must be dozens of sites that would be suitable, what I need is someone who will point me to a quality MATURE site. It can be softcore, hardcore, solo .. yes I am getting less demanding,  but it has to be quality and mostly HD and contain fully dressed women to start with. The most obvious ones: AO30, Anilos, Karups Older Women are out for now because I have to wait a little while longer before enough material that suits me accumulates. Right now they all seem to be going through a basic "four items of clothing without sexy lingerie" phase. Sad experience has shown me that by searching "mature" I will usually be pointed in the direction of some cheap Russian site that stopped updating two years ago. Sad experience has also shown me that I won't get many replies to this request because, as I wrote, my taste is too narrow. Edited on Aug 20, 2012, 11:02am | |
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| 08-20-12 11:19am - 4469 days | #2 | |
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lk2fireone (0)
Active User  Posts: 3,618 Registered: Nov 14, '08 Location: CA |
Sounds like you need a break from porn. I think it happens to most of us as we get older. The thrill is gone, babe. But it usually comes creeping back. Life can still be good. Just not as intense as when we were teenagers. | |
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| 08-20-12 11:34am - 4469 days | #3 | |
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Micha (0)
Active User Posts: 321 Registered: Jul 04, '10 Location: san jose ca |
So I'm clear; you'd like a wide variety of ladies who dress in layers, and disrobe in a manner that is not formulaic. Do you require a coital result? Do you prefer a theme. A fetishist leaning? unless life also gives you water and sugar, your lemonade is gonna suck. | |
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| 08-20-12 12:12pm - 4469 days | #4 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
That's not the first time I've heard that, lk2fireone but it is amazing how quickly the thrill comes back when I see some ladies in pretty lingerie before they get fully undressed! Does plain nudity leave me relatively unmoved .. the answer to that is an unqualified yes. I don't think a break would cure me of that. In this case you are absolutely right .. I have seen so much of it over a rather lengthy life time that what turns on a young male is fairly ho-hum for me. There's just no romance, no sensuality in a quick shedding of clothes. But that's me. Told you my tastes are different. | |
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| 08-20-12 12:21pm - 4469 days | #5 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
I'll take anything, Micha .. from solo to coital result! Fetishist leaning? Twenty years ago it wouldn't have been, even ten years ago it would have been quite normal to see ladies take off their clothes and reveal sensual undies before getting fully undressed. Nowadays this is so scarce that the wish to see this has become a fetish of sorts. The overwhelming theme nowadays is wholesome, pretty youth. Healthy, outdoor-sy, matter of fact about nudity, while my preferred theme is sensuality, slinky, lace trimmed undies, candles, perfume, bedrooms, a slow teasing, an anticipation of great sex to come. I can't really put it into words. I guess it boils down to youth vs. mature. I know, rearadmiral, not in all cases! Thanks for asking, Micha! | |
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| 08-20-12 01:14pm - 4469 days | #6 | |
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Capn (0)
Active User  Posts: 1,740 Registered: Sep 05, '09 Location: Near the Beer! |
Just enjoy your archive for a few months to let favourable updates accumulate some.  Cap'n.  Admiral of the PU Hindenburg. 2009 PU AwardHilarious Post of the Year 2010 PU Award ( I would have preferred it to be Helpful Post of the Year for Guys who Hate 'Retail Therapy' ) :0/ Sanity is in the eye of the Beholder! | |
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| 08-20-12 02:01pm - 4469 days | #7 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
That would be the sensible thing to do, Cap'n, but the Hunter - Gatherer in me is so strong that I just have to have a site to look at daily (and download from) even though there are many sets and video clips in my archive I haven't even fully seen yet! Pathetic, I know!  Who knows it might be the "gather ye rosebuds while ye may" syndrome! | |
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| 08-20-12 04:28pm - 4469 days | #8 | |
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jberryl69 (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 1,000 Registered: Nov 27, '10 Location: neverland |
Without intending this to be insulting, it sounds like you've become jaded. Welcome to the crowd. If it ain't grits, it must be a Yankee. If you're going to lay her head over the pool table and fuck her throat, get your fucking hand off her throat! | |
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| 08-20-12 07:06pm - 4469 days | #9 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
No offense taken, jb! I wouldn't doubt that I have become somewhat jaded. That can happen easy enough to a person after a life-time of looking at porn. But not entirely so, give me a model in erotic and alluring lingerie striking seductive poses and I become unjaded very quickly!  | |
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| 08-21-12 12:02pm - 4468 days | #10 | |
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Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 2,158 Registered: Jan 01, '08 Location: Wash |
Messmer, My return to PU about a year ago or so was in part by Porn and boobie over load,=  .I realized that I was always looking for the perfect scene that just never seemed to happen or be found. With all the incredible women and bodies and a huge variation on scenes you would think I would find it, and in 30+ years I have never found anything better then the first scene I liked. So a few years ago I decided to look at porn for what it was, entertainment when I am bored or need some stimulation  .But I digress, I have known you since about the same time I joined. I come and go at times and was based on coming and going by the point of understanding why I even spent my money on porn that was ok and maybe good at best. For me it was learning to be relaxed in knowing most people are searching for that perfect scene, it sounds like addictive behavior possibly in my case. So I am careful to by what I need and not what I want ! I think its normal to feel like not spending. Since we are being honest here. I have not joined a new site in about two months, And have several reviews due, just the mood was not there yet. Since 2007 | |
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| 08-21-12 12:39pm - 4468 days | #11 | |
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Claypaws (0)
Suspended Webmaster Posts: 144 Registered: May 16, '12 Location: UK |
I fully understand your driving instinct and your disappointment. But one thing that is worth trying is not looking at any porn at all, or downloading anything, for a whole week. A week's fasting can make the eventual meal taste much more delicious even when you had the ingredients in the fridge all along. Conversely, continuous grazing destroys the appetite for even the most gourmet meal. | |
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| 08-21-12 12:54pm - 4468 days | #12 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
^ Thanks, CT. You always have something wise to contribute. Your remark that " I have never found anything better than the first scene I liked" is very true, I think. And so we keep hunting for something that will approximate the thrill we felt then. This is especially frustrating for someone older because times have changed so dramatically that we will probably never find it. Or, maybe, as others have pointed out, all the exposure to the vast offering of porn might also have made us a bit jaded and thrills are therefore are harder to come by. I think all these things are contributing factors .. but, and I can't stress this enough, I would be quite content with a thrill that isn't quite as powerful as that "first scene" if more than the one site I found so far catered to my niche which is so innocent it is almost non-porn: mature, fully clothed women, wearing lingerie, getting slowly undressed until completely nude. A bit of pink at the end of that sequence is, of course, always greatly appreciated! If I could subscribe periodically to three - four sites like that I would be in Heaven! | |
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| 08-21-12 01:04pm - 4468 days | #13 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Thanks, Claypaws. I am into my second porn-less day, so we'll see how it goes. I do take your remarks and those of others seriously so that's exactly what I will do: stop completely for a week, I won't even look at my stash. I've always been a bit skeptical about this method because I have a craving for more sites in a niche that appears to have almost disappeared, which is slightly different from being jaded, but what the heck, what's the harm? Right? Maybe teenies in short jean skirts and not much else will start looking good to me after the fast. | |
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| 08-21-12 02:14pm - 4468 days | #14 | |
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BadMrFrosty (0)
Active User Posts: 124 Registered: Mar 05, '10 Location: Prague (Czech Republic) |
I have fallen into the collector mentality with many different types of media be it porn, movies, games or music. The relentless acquisition of something new took over from the desire to actually appreciate what you have. I put it to you that your absence of porn memberships or the existence of any desire to join could be a very good thing. Go back and enjoy your collection, explore it and find what you have had in your possession but never appreciated or knew of its existence. In short move beyond being a downloader of porn to a connoisseur The problem with the world is stupidity. Not saying there should be capital punishment for stupidity, but why don't we just take the safety labels off of everything and let the problem solve itself? Frank Zappa | |
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| 08-21-12 03:31pm - 4468 days | #15 | |
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Denner (0)
Active User  Posts: 1,217 Registered: Mar 03, '07 Location: Denmark |
A lot of fine answers here.. Been thinking about "your deal", messmer.......and first like lk2 says: a break from porn. But here I think it should only be the pay-sites. Look around on the vast net, the free part that you used to go for....probably not that good...still, when the hunt for the goodies does not pay off, it's the second best. or maybe the second best is to spend some more time with your archives. A little younger than you, but lordy, lordy been there some times...fed up with what I could find on those paysites with the promise of heaven. Then I discovered a lot of forgotten material in my archives. And then again...you'll be back, finding that or those fine sites - maybe not with the overwhelming enthusiasm like the first ones, still.......and may the porn-angel be with you, after all, old friend  "I don't drink anymore - I freeze it, and eat it like a popcicle" | |
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| 08-21-12 03:31pm - 4468 days | #16 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Great advice because I have definitely developed that collector's mentality you write about and there's tons of material in my stash that I downloaded because I thought I would really enjoy it but then forgot in my eagerness to download the next scene/set that appealed to me. Maybe I can categorize some of the loose stuff I have a bit more and put it into different folders (mature, young, ethnic, slim, BBW etc.) Might keep me busy for quite a while, too. | |
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| 08-21-12 04:02pm - 4468 days | #17 | |
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graymane (0)
Suspended  Posts: 1,411 Registered: Feb 20, '10 Location: Virginia |
I just tuned in, messmer, and as soon as my head stops spinning I'll try and assess what you're laying on us here. If this thread is to mean only a departure from the dogged pursuit you're always into hunting down "mature, fully clothed women, wearing lingerie, getting slowly undressed until completely nude (action)" --- then you get my high-five denoting my congrats, support, and a shoulder to weep on while you're on rehab." Howsomeever, if the departure also means you're vacating all PU activity for any duration and leavin' us to stare at your empty space, stationed at the head of the class, then all I can say for the moment is "that's unacceptable!" For now, I'm jus' gonna wait around or go on pause, 'til I'm sure 'bout the real ramifications of your post. | |
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| 08-22-12 10:47am - 4467 days | #18 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Me, leave PU? Not a chance, graymane. As I've written in another place, this site and especially this forum is home to me and believe it or not, you guys (and girl) are my only company since I gave up on the usenet, and I would miss you too much. No, I just came to a point last month where I said to myself, here I am looking at update after update in the sites I subscribe to, downloading some because I can and not because I am really all that interested in the majority of the scenes/picture sets. Most cater to a crowd with different tastes, so why not let the subscriptions lapse because I simply cannot find a site that truly represents my taste, except for one that comes closest, "Vintage Flash", and I cannot stay subscribed to them on a regular basis because their updates don't come in fast enough for my taste. Don't get me wrong, most of the sites I have subscribed to have their good points and it is no reflection on them that I am bored. It's just that there has been a cultural shift toward "mundane, raw eroticism" rather than "sensual teasing," so I am basically left out in the cold until I come across a couple of more sites like the one I mentioned above. I am not giving up on porn, certainly not on my pals in this forum, I'm also not giving up on searching for my perfect site. I simply decided not to subscribe, for a while, to sites that won't give me at least some satisfaction during the month I am subscribed to them. As it is (see original post) I tend to join a site after a lengthy absence, see all kinds of good stuff because I haven`t been there for a while, but am usually done in two days, with ninety-five percent of the daily updates to follow totally and utterly boring to me. Who knows, I`ll probably keep doing this regardless, because it is either that or no porn at all (except for a yearly visit to Vintage Flash,) but for now I am site-less for the first time since 2007 and once again looking for that reputable, high quality mature site where women still like to tease! Thanks for the shoulder to cry on, graymane. | |
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| 09-11-12 11:35am - 4447 days | #19 | |
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Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,158 Registered: Jan 01, '08 Location: Wash |
Glad to hear you were not leaving, there are some key people in this group, I recall the new forum and the few people who were there and it is nice to see so many from back then, I had come to the site a few times before 2008 and saw it growing and the forum and group made me feel right at home. So I always love the new comers, but is nice to see so many of the originals still here. Since 2007 | |
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| 09-12-12 07:35am - 4446 days | #20 | |
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Drooler (0)
Disabled User  Posts: 1,831 Registered: Mar 11, '07 Location: USA |
When I saw the word "milestone," I thought perhaps you'd become a grandfather or something. It's good to be fussy, and it's good to take a break and shake up the old routine a bit. Not a lot at once, but some. You can be fussy about porn. It's not like buttered cauliflower or chicken liver. No one's gonna shove the plate at you. I wanted something new, so I left England for New England. | |
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| 09-12-12 09:49am - 4446 days | #21 | |
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Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,158 Registered: Jan 01, '08 Location: Wash |
I too have taken it more lightly that and money is more tight, need to get more of that LOL Since 2007 | |
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| 09-12-12 12:21pm - 4446 days | #22 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
That should read Great-Grandfather, Drooler. I have four grandchildren who are old enough to have children of their own. Well, I did shake up the routine, as you suggest and started to play Diablo II (LOD) with a new character rather than click on my stashed porn, or porn sites, but something was missing in my day. The older you get the more you become a creature of habit and I missed the daily hunt for either something that contains lingerie, or something that is new and exciting. It did save me some aggravation but also left me adrift because a part of my day was now empty. What makes things so bizarre (and me stupid and incomprehensible) is that I have so much accumulated porn on my externals that has yet to be looked at in depth, yet here I am pining for a daily fix of stuff that is similar to what I already possess. I am beginning to think that most of the fun is in the chase and not the possession! | |
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| 09-12-12 12:27pm - 4446 days | #23 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Naw, I am here to stay, CT. And I am glad to see that you have taken the lead in posting a bit more because it's been awfully quiet in this forum. I've been silent for a change because I had nothing to respond to. | |
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| 09-13-12 05:25am - 4445 days | #24 | |
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Drooler (0)
Disabled User Posts: 1,831 Registered: Mar 11, '07 Location: USA |
I think the chase is the most fun as well throughout the day. It's a dopamine rush to find something new that really excites. So naturally it's hard to quit and to adjust to quitting. I guess the real trick is to just stop thinking about it. Then it wouldn't be a problem at all. It would be nothing. But that would mean you probably wouldn't come around here any more, and you'd be missed. Whattayagonnado? I wanted something new, so I left England for New England. | |
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| 09-13-12 09:34am - 4445 days | #25 | |
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Capn (0)
Active User Posts: 1,740 Registered: Sep 05, '09 Location: Near the Beer! |
Just continue to enjoy the things you enjoy doing. Indulge in your archive..... Enjoy the gems, & cull the trash...... When you come back out in a few weeks, there should be some fresh stuff about. Cap'n. Admiral of the PU Hindenburg. 2009 PU AwardHilarious Post of the Year 2010 PU Award ( I would have preferred it to be Helpful Post of the Year for Guys who Hate 'Retail Therapy' ) :0/ Sanity is in the eye of the Beholder! | |
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| 09-13-12 10:55am - 4445 days | #26 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Thanks, Drooler, that last sentence was very kind and gave me quite the lift! And I am afraid of that "nothingness" you talk about because, at my age, it might turn into permanent so I got to keep fanning the flames by continuing the hunt! If only there were more reputable mature sites to hunt in! Sigh!!! | |
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| 09-13-12 10:57am - 4445 days | #27 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
Will you promise that the ladies will finally be wearing more than four pieces of clothing again when the few weeks are up, Cap'n? | |
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| 09-13-12 11:56am - 4445 days | #28 | |
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Cybertoad (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,158 Registered: Jan 01, '08 Location: Wash |
I think I just enjoy the group we have here, I think many people would be surprised after joining a group like ours here. PU is not just full of drooling perverts ( no offense Drooler  ).. The people here have some kind comradery in that we have similar interest in a topic not all the world is honest or open enough to embrace. I post mostly because maybe at first you were just all fellow PUers, and now you are like friends. Thats how I feel about it, and may be why I get crazy sideways on here as I am comfortable in posting what ever twisted thought passes in my head no matter how out in left field it may be. And everyone here just accepts me for who I am .......... and thats cool.  ( I'm Batman ) Since 2007 | |
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| 09-13-12 12:02pm - 4445 days | #29 | |
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messmer (0)
Disabled User Posts: 2,582 Registered: Sep 12, '07 Location: Canada |
You are so right, CT. Maybe looking at porn gets rid of a lot of spite and anger and meanness because I sure can testify to the brutality of the usenet, where I became unwittingly involved in many a flame war. This IS a good group of decent people, maybe not by the standard of some, but in my estimation, and I am glad to be a part of it. | |
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| 09-13-12 11:34pm - 4444 days | #30 | |
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Capn (0)
Active User Posts: 1,740 Registered: Sep 05, '09 Location: Near the Beer! |
Can't promise, my friend, but you never know. Myself, I am down from 4 regulars to 1, but am enjoying my (vast )archive material a lot more.Optimism is a lot more upbeat anyway.  Cap'n. Admiral of the PU Hindenburg. 2009 PU AwardHilarious Post of the Year 2010 PU Award ( I would have preferred it to be Helpful Post of the Year for Guys who Hate 'Retail Therapy' ) :0/ Sanity is in the eye of the Beholder! | |
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| 09-14-12 03:00am - 4444 days | #31 | |
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elephant (0)
Active User  Posts: 583 Registered: Jan 11, '07 |
I agree it is a very friendly site PU, loads of people would be somewhat shocked just to see that its not like most forums and things on the net were it's mainly abuse and put downs all the time and trolls winding people up. Its moderated well and over the years has built up a friendly bunch of porn lovers who seem to be able to talk about the subject with honesty and in an intelligent manner. I only keep coming back here cause its so friendly and its always fairly active, you can't say that about so many other forums and sites. "Women are like tricks by sleight of hand, Which, to admire, we should not understand." WILLIAM CONGREVE | |
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