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pinkerton (0)
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BDSM - not an attractive sight as far as I'm concerned
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11-29-08 01:12am
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Drooler (Disabled)
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I enjoy freedom of movement, and I've always viewed partners as equals. Sex to me is an escape from pain, not an avenue leading to it.
I remember reading a description of an S&M encounter in a girlie mag long ago. It made me naseous.
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11-29-08 01:38am
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lk2fireone (0)
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I'm more into softcore.
But I saw "The Story of O" when it came out in the 1970s, and enjoyed it.
Also saw "Emmanuelle" around the same time.
They were rated X, I think.
By today's standards, they would be softcore, in my opinion. They were nowhere near as explicit as the hardcore porn that is being put out today. They were quality movies that were highly erotic.
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11-29-08 02:07am
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TheRizzo (0)
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Never been a fan of the BDSM, but I can see why its enjoyable for others. One of my good friends absolutely loves it.
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11-29-08 09:41am
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surferman (0)
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I agree with Drooler. Sex is in my mind for the mutual pleasure of both partners, and I can see no benefit in inflicting or receiving pain. However, plenty of people do seem to enjoy it, but I can't help but feel a little reassured that the results of the poll so far seem to confirm that my feelings are shared by many.
Bottom line however, is each to his own, and as long as it is not doing permanent harm to anyone, and both partners are in agreement, then that's OK.
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11-29-08 10:31am
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pat362 (0)
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I've always enjoyed BDSM, but usually the softer kind. Of course, if you're not into it then I guess you would consider none of it soft. I can't watch any bsdm that involves heavy whipping, tit torure, painful restraints, body piercing, face slapping, verbal abuse, and spitting.
THe last 3 mentioned are why I don't enjoy a lot of the porn from the last 5-10 years because many contain some or all of these.
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11-29-08 04:26pm
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Wittyguy (0)
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For me it's one of those things that I find interesting once in a great while. I find no interest in the really hardcore s+m stuff, just some mild stuff every now and then. It's not something I'm into in real life so it doesn't have a big draw for me in fantasy land. But, to each their own.
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11-29-08 10:12pm
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Lionheart (0)
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Not really sure on the topic, I was thinking about joining a site of one but it's still low on my list.
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11-30-08 01:20am
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elephant (0)
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I'm not a great fan, however I do like some of the behindkink.com stuff with lesbian dom stuff and the gorgeous Priscilla doing any dom stuff, she's hot.
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11-30-08 06:12am
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messmer (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #6 - pat362 :
There are sites specializing in humiliation and I share your distaste when it comes to verbal abuse and spitting and face slapping. However the models are informed of this beforehand (anything else would make the site owners subject to a sexual abuse/assault suit) and these sites are not true BDSM sites in my eyes.
Real BDSM, despite Drooler's misgivings, is not usually a case where one of the participants is being degraded and there is no equality between the sexes.
For some people, for whatever reason, experiencing pain is actually an erotic event while for the dominant the infliction of pain accomplishes the same. Both are equal in their need and complement one another.
It is an aberration, and personally I don't have the slightest desire to either inflict pain or experience it. Just thought I'd set the record straight. This is a wild and wonderful world where sexual tastes range from the mild and "normal" to the absolutely bizarre.
In my case, despite my feeble attempts to understand human sexuality, I could never understand that head to toe latex or rubber fetish that goes so often with BDSM. :-)
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11-30-08 09:12am
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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What the phuck is that?!! :D :D
See, porn is becoming so phucking off the wall that "I' am not starting to recognize it!!
What is BDSM?!! =/ I have no idea!!
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11-30-08 01:13pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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Oh Hell No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is FUCKED UP!!!!!
I DIDN'T KNOW HALEY PAIGE DIED!!!
WUT DID SHE DIE FRUM?!!!! >:O >:O
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11-30-08 01:53pm
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Drooler (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #10 - messmer :
Just for the record, I didn't say anything about degradation. And the "D" does stand for "Domination," so in that sense it's not a matter of equality, obviously. I was talking about BDSM, nothing more.
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11-30-08 02:43pm
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messmer (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #13 - Drooler :
Sorry, Drooler. :-) Careless wording on my part. True BDSM is rough stuff and if the partners were NOT equal it would have to be degrading to the one being dominated. But in most cases it is a mutually desirable thing for both partners because it caters to both the need to dominate and to be dominated, making them equal.
As I said, human sexuality is a complex matter!
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11-30-08 03:49pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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Okay, NOW I KNOW!! She got killed!!
THIS IS FUCKED UP, MAN!!!!
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11-30-08 06:04pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #2 - Drooler :
Drooler, We need more men like U, Dawg!! I seems like everytime I observe a reply or a message from you, it makes a whole lot of sense!!
FUCKING HALEY PAIGE DIED, MAN!!!!!!!!!! I DIDN'T KNOW THIS SHIT UNTIL I REQUESTED TO BE HER FRIEND ON MYSPACE!! BUT IT WASN'T HER WHO ACCEPTED ME!! SO WHO WAS IT?!!
Some crazy pyscho BDSM jerk killed her!! You see why I don't like pyschotic porn?!! It's rediculous!! Dude, she married a psychopath!!!!!!
What did he say to her to when her heart?!!! What does he look like?!!
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11-30-08 06:09pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #10 - messmer :
ABSOLUTELY BIZZARE?!!! :O :O Dude, that is Milky Way porn!!! :O
UFO LIVING BEINGS ENGAGE IN THIS KIND OF SHIT!!!!!
I DIDN'T KNOW WE HAD UFO'S LIVING ON EARTH!! >:(
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11-30-08 06:16pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #7 - Wittyguy :
Dude, man!!! HALEY PAIGE DIED, MAN!! WHAT THE PHUCK!!! >:( :(
FUCKIN' PYSCHOS, MAN!!!
WHAT IS IT WITH PEOPLE?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! >:(
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11-30-08 06:19pm
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pat362 (0)
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REPLY TO #10 - messmer :
I agree with you that bsdm is an aberration, but in the same token. Isn't anal, dp's, gang bangs, blow bangs, and any other variation on theme the same? I've been watching porn for abouty 20 yrs and I still can't tell you what makes a person choose porn as a carrer.
Then again I can't tell you what makes a person choose prostitution.
One theory why some people enjoy bsdm is that there is a significant amount of adrenalin released when we are scared and the fact that you are restrained, at the mercy of another person can be scary.
Add to that the fact that the body releases endorphin when we are subjected to pain, and I'd say you have one amazing natural cocktail to make anyone an addict. I suspect that in time you are required to subject yourself to more fear and pain to get the same high, but
that is the way with any drug.
That explains the masochist point of view, but beats me what drives the sadist. Afterall any person who enjoys inflicting pain and torment should have a hard time stopping when they hear a safe word.
I'll let you come up with a theory for them, since I had such a brilliant one for the masochist. Of course when I said brilliant that was in my own delusional mind.
Maybe for some people the full latex or rubber costume is like their baby blanket that you could wrap tightly around yourself to keep out the monsters???
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11-30-08 06:21pm
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #8 - Lionheart :
Lionheart, man, come on!! What do you know about that shit, man?!! :( :(
This is almost the kind of SHIT that can make a man give up porn!!!
What does Chico FUCKING Wang look like?!!! :( :(
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11-30-08 06:22pm
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messmer (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #19 - pat362 :
Your explanation of masochism is a very good one, Pat. A better one than I have. :-) Some have also suggested that it is a sign of very low self-esteem and that submissives are trying to expunge guilt about their perceived shortcomings this way.
As to Sadism, I have none. As past and present conditions under dictatorships prove there are plenty of sadists around, they come out of the woodwork once social conditions are right, but what makes a human being enjoy inflicting pain or humiliation on another leaves me without an answer.
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12-01-08 08:32am
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Drooler (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #16 - Pinche Kankun :
I think it was exotics4me who pointed out this site http://www.rame.net/faq/deadporn/ which lists Haley's death, though it's not updated as to the cause.
She was a hot and attractive girl with a hometown look. It's a shame! A cryin' shame! I hate the nasty phckers who abuse women!
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12-01-08 01:35pm
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pat362 (0)
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REPLY TO #21 - messmer :
I guess it could be argued that low self-esteem is the most common reason why women choose to perform in porn. I rarely believe them when I read or hear them talk about loving the sex. The money I can understand, but having sex on a porn set is not likely to get you off.
Since neither of us is a sadist, then it makes sense that we would have a hard time understanding what makes a person do it. My point is that most dominant in a bsdm are not true sadist because they will stop hurting the person if asked, and rarely inflict a large amount real pain.
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12-01-08 06:32pm
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nygiants03 (0)
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I like a little BDSM, its hot sometimes. Some whips, rope, and candle wax is pretty nice. The only kind I don't like is the crap where they stick like all kinds of needles and nails through the girls tits and pussy and crap. That is not BDSM to me, that is torture.
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12-02-08 11:24am
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Pinche Kankun (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #22 - Drooler :
Yeah man!! I read an entire story page on a website about how she molested as a child, her drugs addiction, how she was lied to in her marriages, how she started on the porn industry!!
You know, CRACK IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY WE HAVE FUCKED UP PORN ANYWAY!! PORN IS GETTING REALLY BORING, BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN PORN SHOULD START GETTING REDICULOUS!!
There are too many cases where a woman and/or her family gets killed by the husband/boyfriend, then he kills himself!!
TOO MANY!!!
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12-03-08 10:55am
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