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badandy400 (0)
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That would be a lot of awkward situations! I really do not know what I would tell people. It depends so much on what she would want people to know and who those people are. Some people would not care at all and others would completely freak out. Fortunately I am presented with that issue.
More people are presented with the issue of dating a stripper. While a stripper is not known nationally she is known local which in reality is worse. At least as a stripper there usually is no video of the act of Youtube living forever.
I would say if people ask you tell them but if they do not want to talk about it or know than that should be respected.
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08-20-09 12:25am
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Drooler (Disabled)
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It would be interesting to try finding out who actually DID know. If she were a pornstar, people I know who would see her in porn themselves would have to make the choice of broaching the subject.
Being truthful is a virtue that can sometimes open the door to vice. Let's say your relationship to your pornstar significant other is in trouble. Should you reveal this? Would male "friends" try to take advantage of the situation and thereby thwart your efforts to restore the relationship with her?
It's not enough to just say that honesty is, at all times, the "best policy." You have to think about the possible consequences.
Honesty at all times belongs to a world full of virtuous human beings. Experience has shown me that that world is certainly not the one that I presently inhabit.
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08-20-09 02:09am
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lk2fireone (0)
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The simple answer is, it's none of their business. People have a right to privacy, and I don't see the sense in broadcasting what would be a controversial fact. That's my position. But some men would enjoy the sensation they create, and that's them, not me.
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08-20-09 05:50am
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GCode (0)
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Would not date/marry one. Nuff said.
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08-20-09 09:56am
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zzzins (0)
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I don't think that I could handle the thought of my mates going home and whacking one off over her videos and pictures. No....I'd keep it to myself.
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08-20-09 11:14am
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uscue (0)
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It would depend on if she wanted people to know or not. Just like a lot of celebrities, they know that people will recognize them, but they don't broadcast who they are to the people that don't and instead like to enjoy the anonymity.
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08-20-09 12:00pm
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turboshaft (0)
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REPLY TO #3 - lk2fireone :
That's always a great answer lk2fireone -- I think too many of us base much of our lives around how others feel, without ever seriously considering our own personal feelings. I am a little lost as to why we put so much judgmental weight on people's professions, but we shouldn't let others intolerance and ignorance dictate our happiness, even when (if ever) it comes to dating/marrying a porn star.
Honestly though, I am in the "Not sure, it depends" category here. There have been quite a few models I thought I liked only to watch one too many behind the scenes videos, or read one too many interviews, to realize I really don't like a lot of them...but I am picky. I would think the porn could be a shared interest, though the fact that we approach it as fans, and the 'stars' approach it as a job, could lead to some problems.
This sort of goes back to a poll from over two years ago: "Would you date someone in the industry?" This poll was done before I even joined, but I will admit at least dating one is somewhere on my bucket list. :)
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08-20-09 12:54pm
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james4096 (Suspended)
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Well, I wouldn't be involved with someone whose profession I was totally ashamed of, so I wouldn't totally hide the fact. But really it's nobody's business.
The short answer when asked what my girl does would be, "she's an actress. In what you say? Independent stuff. Nothing you'd ever watch." But I would tell those close to me if they really grilled me.
Also it depends how open she was about it.
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08-20-09 01:49pm
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lk2fireone (0)
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REPLY TO #7 - turboshaft :
Everyone's different, which is kind of a useless generalization that has some truth to it. But to date/marry a porn star, you would need a thick skin, which I don't have. You would also need a way of accepting your wife/girlfriend having "professional" sex with other men or women or both, and I just don't think that way. Different strokes for different folks, as they said back in the 1970s.
I am surprised at the results of many poll answers, because I think the PU members are responding with their honest feelings in many cases. You would expect a lot more bullshit or posturing in the replies, but I think, partially because of the anonymity of the usernames, that we are being more honest than I would have expected.
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08-20-09 04:41pm
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pat362 (0)
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I'm with GCode on this one. I Wouldn't date one, let alone marry one. I have a hard time believing that anyone can enjoy dating a pornstar. It's all great to say that porn acting is just a job, but I don't think so. For one thing. I don't think you'd ask her how her day went for fear that she mentions that today was her big gang bang and that she swollowed 12 loads so she's not really hungry.
Then there would be the sex. I think the last thing a porn star wants to do when she spent the entire day doing it is have sex.
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08-20-09 06:38pm
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lk2fireone (0)
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REPLY TO #10 - pat362 :
I'm not sure about the accuracy of your statement regarding hunger and the 12 cum loads she swallowed. Cum might be like a Chinese meal, where you get hungry again soon after you finish eating. But I'm not really speaking from personal experience, I'm afraid (I'd be even more afraid if I was speaking from personal experience).
But making a 180 degree turn, I'd say that someone could have a relationship with a porn star like Marilyn Chambers, who was was still promoting her older videos at conventions. I only met her once at a glamourcon convention in LA, but she seemed warm, real and friendly. I don't know what she was like as a person (I can't read people that well to know how they will behave), but she seemed to be really nice and down to earth. I think and hope that a woman like she was could have a real marriage or real relationship with someone who cared for her. Maybe I'm a romantic, but she came across as a really nice person.
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08-20-09 07:40pm
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PinkPanther (0)
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I'd tell everybody that she was a nun
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08-20-09 07:42pm
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lk2fireone (0)
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REPLY TO #12 - PinkPanther :
That's the kind of honesty I respect and admire. Probably the best answer yet.
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08-20-09 08:33pm
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Duante Amorculo (0)
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Definitely depends on the situation for me. It's one thing not to be ashamed but due to the fact that many still do look down on porn stars, I would have to apply discretion as to who I tell the truth to and who get a well-thought out alternative, otherwise called a lie :). Prime eg. I read somewhere that a politician of some sort, got voted off a board because they found out his wife was a former porn star.
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08-21-09 03:23am
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largeun (Suspended)
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No shame whatsoever. Apart from it being a cred boost I can see an opportunity to make some fundage, and that's got to be a good thing right?
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08-21-09 04:53am
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Duante Amorculo (0)
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REPLY TO #2 - Drooler :
You've made some very good points. Totally agree with you
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08-21-09 10:36am
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pat362 (0)
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REPLY TO #11 - lk2fireone :
I wouldn't have believed you if you had told me that you knew what
swallowing 12 loads felt like. You might be right that cum isn't as filling as I made it sound. Liquid diets always leave wanting more.
Since the poll was about dating a pornstar then I didn't give an opinion on dating an ex-pornstar. I agree that Marilyn seemed like a nice decent woman who just happened to have done porn and from what I read on many other sites. She actually was quite nice. It's quite hypocritical of me to say that I can jerk off to a pornstar but I wouldn't want to date one. I'm pretty sure that quite a few men slept with the schools easy lay but would never consider dating her.
I'd have no problem being friends with an ex-pornstar or even an active one. I just don't know if I'd be comfortable dating an
ex-pornstar. I guess it depends on how long ago she was a pornstar and whether I had seen her movies.
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08-21-09 06:47pm
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RagingBuddhist (Disabled)
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That would depend on who I was around. The religious fanatics in my family wouldn't understand. The people with sense wouldn't care one way or another.
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08-23-09 02:29pm
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alexmedia (0)
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I'll not marry a pornstar for sure.
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09-18-09 06:58am
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