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elephant (0)
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I think its wrong thing to do but end of the day not strictly cheating, kind of depends if you kept going back or you got hooked on it and did it all the time with the same model, then yeah its more serious.
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01-19-13 12:53am
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Capn (0)
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Like Elephant says for me.
It really depends on what & how it is done.
There is a grey area where a bit of light hearted fun & entertainment turns into something more serious.
Cap'n. :0/
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01-19-13 01:33am
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graymane (Suspended)
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I don't think so ....... but, contrarily, I dare say you'd fail getting said "spouse/significant other" to agree with that on any level.
Is this any more or less cheating than if you're mentally visualizing another partner while you're having sex with "said" 'spouse/significant other?"
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01-19-13 01:47am
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RustyJ (Suspended)
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No. I consider it same as watching porn. No real physical contact, no deeper emotion. Nothing for me either.
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01-19-13 01:57am
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Capn (0)
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REPLY TO #3 - graymane :
I think the nub of it is the interaction element.
It is a step further when, instead of being a viewer, you are talking in an intimate erotic way to another person who isn't your SO ;0)
Cap'n. :0)
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01-19-13 02:37am
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Drooler (Disabled)
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I think it's a bit funny how cheating is so often defined by physical contact. I once fell in love with a woman while I was already married, and she with me. It was about the time that she had just gotten married to someone I knew that she found a private moment to talk to me, and we confessed our love to each other.
And that was it. We never got further than brief hand-holding and rarely saw each other since that time, and then only with a spouse present. We'd gone on with our choices, if not completely with our hearts.
But was any of this cheating? Not even a little bit?
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01-19-13 07:21am
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jberryl69 (Disabled)
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Wow, nice question General. Not sure "cheating" - by definition, "Informal To be sexually unfaithful either breaking a promise of sexual fidelity or lying about sexual encounters." Though in that context, if you said you'd never interact with Cam Girls then I guess it's cheating.
Perhaps it's just "casting a sheep’s eye".
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01-19-13 07:34am
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pat362 (0)
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I don't think watching porn is cheating per say because there's no actual relationship between the performer and the viewer but it's often different with cam models because there can be a lot of iteractions with models.
I don't use cam sites for my porn needs but I've always assumed that the main appeal is the fact that you can directly interact with the model and if you have enough money then you can do so in a very very exclusif way. Once the viewer and the girl can talk and interact in a personal way then you are on your way to cheating if technically you haven't already done so because the appeal of the girll is no longer physical but also emotional.
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01-19-13 10:27am
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slutty (0)
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I said 'other', as like pat I think it is a bit more towards the cheating side on the spectrum, but perhaps not outright cheating, especially if you keep going back to the same model and there is significant interaction.
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01-19-13 12:28pm
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gaypornolover (0)
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Nah! It's just interactive porn. No different to watching a porno and I don't consider that cheating.
I'd be happy for a partner of mine to do it.
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01-19-13 03:25pm
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KET924aab (0)
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I would say no in almost all cases. First of all, it's non-physical--you haven't even touched the girl. Secondly, most private chats on cam sites consist of some variation of the girl stripping and then masturbating with fingers or toys--albeit this is at your direction, but its still fairly standard "porn", and nothing more. Finally, its very unlikely that the model has any real emotional feelings toward you, other than perhaps maybe she likes you better than some of the other guys she interacts with. So, while you might have a "thing" for the model, she probably doesn't feel anything for you. On the other hand, it is possible for a "relationship" with a cam model to morph over time into something more like what you might get at an online dating site. In that case, it could be considered a non-physical form of cheating.
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01-19-13 06:40pm
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Cybertoad (Disabled)
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I think we or one should define it simply as.
If a hooker gave you a hand job is it cheating?
If a Live girl tells you to jerk it is it cheating ?
Fine line I think for sure, I for one do not use them and have not because of the dare I say moral line it crosses.
Porn is entertainment to me, a live girl is
about as far one can go, cheating or not hmmmm.
I am willing to bet most domestic relationships
would say hell no !
So there ya go !
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01-19-13 11:20pm
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messmer (Disabled)
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That was a tough one. I changed my vote twice but finally settled on "yes" because interacting with a cam girl would make me feel that I was going behind my wife's back. And if this makes me feel guilty then it's cheating.
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01-20-13 10:25am
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jberryl69 (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #12 - Cybertoad :
I'm confused - do I need permission from a cam girl to beat my pud?
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01-20-13 07:42pm
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jberryl69 (Disabled)
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REPLY TO #13 - messmer :
lol - easy solution to that one - set up her own web cam just for you.
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01-20-13 07:43pm
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hodayathink (0)
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Generally speaking, no it isn't. It can become something akin to cheating if you (and they) let it (basically a long-distance relationship), but the generaly act of interacting with a cam model isn't cheating.
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01-20-13 09:17pm
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otoh (0)
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A bit of a grey area, I think - it's not the same as regular porn, I see it as being closer to visiting a strip club. Which folk do for different reasons, and so may or may not involve emotional attachment.
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01-21-13 05:21am
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Cybertoad (Disabled)
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Yes Jberry......... just you ! hehehe
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01-21-13 08:22am
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marcdc1 (0)
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It's all about context and intent. But in short if you're hiding and feeling guilty....
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01-22-13 06:37pm
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Ambition (0)
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It's still virtual and a fantasy, as long as nothing physical is involved or feelings on both sides, it's not cheating.
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01-23-13 09:07pm
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skippy (0)
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I see a lot of interesting comments about guilt here. Really? If your significant other walked in while you were masterbating to a porn video, you would not feel guilty, but if it was a live cam-girl, you would?
Cheating, mutually agreed upon with my wife, is me sticking my dick into another girl or another guy sticking his dick into her. Grinding to orgasm at a strip club doesn't count. Masterbating under any circumstances, live girl, booth girl, strip-club, cam-girl, Waikiki hooker, whatever..not cheating, just release. Heck, she's even given me money to go to clubs when I'm travelling for work.
So don't confuse feeling guilty with cheating unless you feel guilty because your sexual organ smells like somebody other than your significant other's sexual organ. That's cheating! Anything short of that, in spite of what others may think, is pretty much just for fun.
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01-31-13 09:00pm
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